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k'Jon feat. Seven The General - On Everything

Up and down by Dat boy hot

Monday, September 6, 2010

Inspirational Story

On this past Friday, a high school in Northwest Indiana bestowed an honorary high school diploma and full alumni status upon my Aunt Sue's (my Mom's Best Friend) Mother. Throughout the years Ms. Brown talked about getting a GED, but life (and perhaps confidence) always seemed to get in her way. The nursing home that she lives in and the school went well above and beyond any expectations to make this a special day for her. Several of the nurses and CNAs came in on their day off to support Aunt Sue's mom, and the school sent 3 faculty members and 14 students to participate in the ceremony. My Aunt said, "The spirit of good will was overwhelming." My Mother shared this with me and I am sharing it with you. I wish we all could have experienced the love and joy Ms. Brown felt Friday. (This was one of just a few times that she has been in a chair since her surgery in May.) I hope you see there is no limit to our possibility in life. That we all can achieve it if we just dare to DREAM and Step our GREATNESS up!!!!!!!! *HIT THE HIGHLIGHTED SHARE to see the Story*


Saturday, August 7, 2010

Bad Girls Club Questions and Answers

Ok I get asked questions about BGC3 like every day. So , I took what I hear the most and made a blog for them.

1. I don't talk to Kayla or Amber B however Cookie and I re-united in Vegas while celebrating Annie BGC4 Birthday
2. I don't date Skeet anymore and yes Marcus and I are still very good friends actully he was in the house with us when we learned we were going to Vegas. I'm single. I've never been married and no Kids
3. I was upset that last nite at dinner because it was the 1st time I was hearing of this issue between Cookie and Mike. My Brother had been at the house for 4 days I felt like it should have been said that 1st nite or hell the next day ; not on our last day in the house. He had taken ALL of us out dancing, shopping, and dinner ( NO one felt uneasy when he was doing these things). To have Cookie feel like he had harmed her pissed me off. I told her I didn't want to talk about it but she keep pushing it. I felt they were trying to make him look perverted...I wasn't going for it. That isn't a issue to play with.... America would only see a BLACK man hurting a little blonde woman. Cookie and I talk about it she saw where I was coming from.
5. Sarah and I are are still friends more like sisters nothing or anyone can change that.
6. Ailea has grown up so much that was over 2 years ago. She is a GREAT girl
7. I am very aware that Kayla hates me that's her issue not mine. KC going home was edited too. She left after she and I got into it (Dress Ep) not after her fight with Cookie as shown. The necklace issue was that KC could come get it whenever; she lived in LA. Her calling about it everyday was dumb as hell in my view; come get your shit.
8. I was not afraid or upset about Tanisha when she showed up to the house..I was more IN AWE...she was a big reason I watched BGC. Hell yeah I called my MOM she is Tanisha's Biggest fan even to this day. I couldn't believe she was there...we were about to go home in like a WEEK and she POPPED in ....the ep. was edited alot too. Ashley BGC3 voice can be heard talking to Tanisha if you pay close attention you can see her standing next to Tanisha. Aliea and Whtney were gone home by that time this had taken place. Look at my TAN we had just gotten back from Cancun. Tanisha and I are GREAT friends we talk all the time.
9. I have hung out and/or talked with some of the cast of BGC1, BGC2, BGC4,BGC5,BGC6 ( I do state my opinon on BGC. I'm a BGC fan like other viewers) I just don't go around bashing other seasons and girls. We are all in the same boat but some other BGC'er feel they have to TOP the next girl so more power to them, thats not my style. Just keep my name out your mouth and be respectful.
10. Le Le and I are like sisters we visit each other every chance we get.
11. I was myself on the show..anyone in my REAL life will tell u that how I was on the BGC3 is how I am. I am sweet, kind, and loving...but if u push the right buttons. I will get in that A@@. Some my say I'm FAKE hey you can't be loved by everyone.
12. Cookie did not deserve the be hit or kicked in Cancun...I did try to stop it but it was to far gone. The tension between the Fab 5 and The Ambers was jsut to far gone at this point plus DRINKING all day didn't help. I was beyond DRUNK. The only two who jumped Cookie was Ailea and Whitney stop saying it was theh Fab 5. Neither Myself Sarah or Ashley hit Cookie; I did try to get the shoe out of her hand. I stepped up and did what was right for me in the end not to look good to anyone else. I was upset at Whit leaving she was my girl I love her. Ailea understood why I called her out she was wrong. Today she is a better person for learning from it; we all are. Amber B was wrong too she would say we (FAB 5) followed each other but she didn't move at all to help her GIRL once...even when Cookie was crying Amber just sat there did NOTHING. Ailea and Cookie have put it in the past and are cool with each other today.
13. I would do another show if it were right for me.
14. No I don't regret doing BGC3 it has open many doors for me.
15. Yes I do speak at schools when I say I am going to do something I do it. My non for profit From a Bad Girl 2 a Great Woman.
16. I hate when a person lies on me so that is why I was so pissed at Cookie at the reunion. If I do something BAD to someone else I can own up to it. I would not go sneaking around on a message board talking shit. If I have anything to say about anyone I would call a person or go see them. I never wrote on the message boards I did read them just like all the girls do. It was just so dumb Cookie had a WHOLE message board behind her and one person liked me and I had to be that person..yet I was the one with the big EGO.
17. When we filmed the reunion show us girls were watching the show just like us guys. So, we are seeing all the sneaky behind the back things the other girls had been saying. So our feeling are VERY raw at the reunion. Also we had never seen the Cancun or last Dinner ep. at all. Also production hype you you keeps you away from each other so anger is build up.
18. Yes I messed up my eye brows on the show...oh well I was still KUTE!!!!!!!
19. Yes I spit ExKuses bekause I learned from the best. Ik Baby!!!!
20. No the producers did not tell us what to do in any situation. Thing were TOLD to us and we either acted on them or didn't. It a BIG a mnd FUCK!!!
21. Yes I still live in Chi-Town.
22. Am I still a Bad Girl....Always and forever.....but being a GREAT WOMAN is my DESTINY.
23. Yes I heard there are 2 new girls from Chi-Town on season 6 I dont know them they have not reached out to me.
24. Yes GREATNESS is always in the air....its how I live life.

I hope this answers some of you guys ???? If I missed something please let me know- I will add it!!!!!!
Greatness is in the air!!!!!

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Saturday, July 3, 2010

A Small Life Lesson

This Blog is completely RANDOM but I felt like sharing......

Funeral Procession

My Nana has given me a many of things and many of them have stayed with me. One of the things that she taught me when I was learning to drive was that when a funeral procession is going by, that you should pull over to the side of the road and let the grieving pass.

As I was driving one day, I saw the flashing lights of the police car that was leading a procession. Once I realized what was going on, I pulled to the side of the road and turned my radio all the way down. As I watched the family of the deceased pass, there was one man on a motorcycle that looked me and nodded his head in appreciation. He Stop and pulled over too. He and I both sat there watching other cars that kept on speeding by, not even thinking about what they were in the midst of.

When the last of the cars passed he nodded again and pulled back on the road. I smiled; I knew that someone saw what I did and was inspired to do the same when they are put in that situation again.

It feels good to know that I can remember the smallest of my Nana's advice, but I can also teach others it’s value as well.

Monday, June 14, 2010


I was talking to my Mom ok, really I was venting. Like I usually do just to get stuff off my chest. I am a controlling person if ya'll have not figured it out by now. I like things to flow a certain way: "My Way". When things go wrong or not to my liking I can hold on to that moment forever; which isn't healthy. So, as we where talking she just started pointing out how "resentful" I was towards people and events in my life. I had to concur with her on this: I was. I have been holding on to so much "Negative Energy". It has been blocking my "GREATNESS".

My Mom shared this story with me and I am sharing it with you. I am learning to "Let go and let GOD". Forgiveness in life is key!!!!

There was subtle accusation in his voice. Tempers began to rise. Resentment set in. Before long, a deep and bitter chasm divided the young men. They refused to speak. They finally decided they could no longer work together and a dividing wall was built down the center of the store. For twenty years hostility and bitterness grew, spreading to their families and to the community.

Then one day a man in an automobile licensed in another state stopped in front of the store. He walked in and asked the clerk, "How long have you been here?"

The clerk replied that he'd been there all his life. The customer said, "I must share something with you. Twenty years ago I was "riding the rails" and came into this town in a boxcar. I hadn't eaten for three days. I came into this store from the back door and saw a dollar bill on the cash register. I put it in my pocket and walked out. All these years I haven't been able to forget that. I know it wasn't much money, but I had to come back and ask your forgiveness."

The stranger was amazed to see tears well up in the eyes of this middle-aged man. "Would you please go next door and tell that same story to the man in the store?" he said. Then the man was even more amazed to see two middle-aged men, who looked very much alike, embracing each other and weeping together in the front of the store.

After twenty years, the brokenness was mended. The wall of resentment that divided them came down.

It is so often the little things that finally divide people- words spoken in haste; criticisms; accusations; resentments. And once divided, they may never come together again.

The solution, of course, is to let it go. There is really nothing particularly profound about learning to let go of little resentments. But for fulfilling and lasting relationships, letting them go is a must. Refuse to carry around bitterness and you may be surprised at how much energy you have left for building bonds with those you love.

--- Author Unknown

Sunday, May 2, 2010

To close to home

So Friday night around 10:30 I was at play practice and everything was good……no worries for me.

Unknown to me and the rest of the world my Mother and Step-Father were forced to their living room floor as a hail of bullets was being shot at and into my 16 year old cousin Juan in their front yard. He was fatally MURDERED from this brutal assault.

What more can I say …that has been said. “Stop the violence, increase the peace, save our kids”…..these words are said daily in our community- clearly no one is paying attention. All I know is my Mother stood over my cousin’s dead body with her Great Aunt and that is not normal and so wrong on many levels. Why are we accepting this? Why is it that we are ok with kids dying everyday? I can’t and I won’t accept this!!

Yes, I was on BAD GIRLS CLUB and I know what it may represents to the world but that show does not define me as a PERSON at all. Beyond that show I am an Educated Woman who is productive in the community with dreams and goals; who loves God and her family. I’m saddened by the death of my own family member but equally as upset about the other 150 plus people in the Chicago area that have been MURDERED this year along; in senseless crimes in CHCAGO.

As I watched the news Saturday night. I was in shock it was my family they were speaking to about my cousin. Juan Daniel's age 16 my cousin was being were counting as another dead kid in the streets of Chicago. It has hit too close to home for me again.....I don’t have the answers but I know something must be done.


Thursday, April 8, 2010

Greatness is just Greatness

We all have certain ideas about what success means and how it appears. I know that I am DESTINED 4 GREATNESS. As well as everyone else in this world. GREATNESS is an internal matter.It is the knowledge that we either have or don’t have. Why do great people do great things? It is natural to them. They don’t have any doubt about their abilities. I don’t have to prove I am great because my GREATNESS is natural. Anything that is natural doesn’t have to be proven, evidence of GREATNESS is realized over time. Inside each and everyone of us is the potential for GREATNESS; you must make a conscious decision to allow yourself to be what you were created to be and that is GREAT! As for success, that is easy once you have embraced that inner knowledge. That knowledge doesn’t come from your brain, but from your heart.

Greatness is in the air©
Tiffany Torrence-Davis

Sunday, March 21, 2010

My Daddy

11 years ago today I was 14 years old enjoying life. I remember this day like it was yesterday. I just came home from a friends birthday party and there was a knock on my door and there stood my Uncle Shed at 1am with this look on his face that would change my life. My Father was dead.

8 days before my 15th birthday my Dad was in a car accident and died; I shut down. It was the first time that I didn't really speak and had no emotion. I took it harder than anyone would ever known but I kept it all to myself. I felt if I didn't share my feeling on my Dad it would be a part him that just belonged only to me. This is the start of the "bad girl" creation at this point I didn't care anymore. I acted up and out..allowing suppressed emotions to bring me to boiling points.

I loved my father and I thought he was the coolest man to walk this earth. Just like any young Dad there were issues but I knew my Daddy loved me and I loved him. He was a Chicago Firefighter, his last house was at Meigs Field Air Sea Rescue. (I told ya'll he was cool) He was smart, educated, gorgeous and a force to be reckoned with! My dad would pick me up from school, show up to my school events and all the single Mom's loved him! My temperament is 100% percent my Dad where as my laid back side is my Moms. I like to think they both just even me out but I do tend to have more "PAUL MOMENTS" in my life.

I party like a rock-star during my birthday week to fill a void of missing him making myself believe it was in celebration of his life. I've never taken the time to visit his grave site before today. But, today at 26 with a 17 year old sister (we have the same dad) I stand stronger than I have ever been in life. Today at noon I will visit his grave site with my close family and friends. This is huge for me but its time. For so long I've used my dad as an excuse to be BAD, but today I use his name to be GREAT! Oh don't get me wrong I cry my eyes out all the time over him I just never wanted to share. I know deep inside my father would be so proud of me and the things I have done! I am just like him! Today as the tears fall they are tears of GREATNESS. Tears of knowing that I will see him again. Tears of love and passion! Tears of strength! I stand stronger than I ever have! I have come so far and I'm such a fighter that I can not give up now! Shit happens but we determine our destiny. My little sister is laying next to me as I write this blog at 3am and I look at her and she looks like him and it reminds me of what my purpose is here in life again! I have accepted that things happen for a reason. People are placed in your life for a reason and taken for a reason!

At 14 and losing a parent that I loved 8 days before my birthday tore me up inside, but I totally understand what GOD was trying to teach me. PAUL STEVEN TORRENCE I love you with all my heart there isn't another man in my life that can compare to how I feel about you! Your name tattooed on me for a reason, down to every memory that I have that will never be erased! I know that you are proud and I am making all the changes just as you would have wanted me to GREATNESS is the goal!

You rest in peace because where you are can not compare to where we are! Nadia is sleeping right next to me and I promise I will look out for her and take care of her. You already know I got her! I am sharing with her all my memories of you. We love you DADDY! Your girls will forever be your "GIRLS" and always your angels our halo's are just a bit tilted.

To my family and friend who have helped me through this situation with love and understanding: my Aunt Tracy you are so strong I admire you. My Mother, My Nana and Grand Daddy for words of strength. My Ashley Thomas for always being that friend that just plain out understood me when no one else did! To everyone for all the love and support of everyone who genuinely cared! Thank you!

So let's bask in being GREAT because we are GREAT! Live life to the fullest and never have regrets!
Greatness is in the air©*

*I wrote this at 3 am it all over the place so forgive me*

Tuesday, March 16, 2010


“There exists a friend sticking closer than a brother.” --- Proverbs 18:24

Dedicated to my LOVES
Natasha, Fallon, Kendra, Crystal, Alycia, Markita, DeAnna, Terenee, Shanetta, Brittany, Skylar, Alex, Sarah and Aliea
I THANK YOU "LOVES" for undying LOVE and support..I will always make myself available to YOU when needed....GOOD or BAD we are still together!!!

An enduring friendship is truly needed to the human soul as food and water are to our body. Whether we are rich or poor, we all need friends, its our friendships that will pull us through thick and thin. Friends are our constant source of joy that uplift our spirits every time we’re with them soaking up moments of unending laughter and getting well with each other. Friends can provide us deep and healthy conversation that expands our knowledge and wisdom. Much-needed advices in times of challenges are readily available when we need them and our friends are ready to give them without hesitation. They wipe away all our tears when sorrow and loneliness strike. They are our solid anchor when we need stability when troubles calls. They are our defensive shields when HATERS are all over the place. Sister. Sis, Girls , Ladies bitches "LOVES" whatever name we call our friends they are truly, a priceless possessions to keep for a lifetime. Its hard to maintain a REAL friendship yet along several! I am BLESSED to have my "LOVES".....I need and crave my friendships.

Friday, March 12, 2010


K'Jon on the Ocean

My New Theme Music

Raheem DeVaughn ft. Wale - The Greatness


Where do u find your source of greatness? This is a question we all need to spend time considering because it will be different for us all especially if discovering greatness is a journey you are thinking about taking. Let me share with you how I found my greatness.

When I think about my own greatness I think about the feeling that comes when I connect with God , when I stand in complete faith and believe that whatever I have asked for will be delivered. My greatness isn't one thing but a multitude of things that leave me feeling at peace, connected and always confident. Fear and guilt can not live when my greatness is present.

The good news is that no matter where your life is right now, no matter how bad things have become, at any moment you can choose to turn it around with one simple thought "I can choose to be happy despite my current circumstances"It was that one thought that began to turn my life around after two years of disconnecting from sources to 'do it my way' and making a complete mess of it. I awoke one morning and a voice whispered "despite how bad you think things are you can still choose to be happy" The simple act of choosing to be happy put me on the path of reconnecting back to everything I had turned away from.

So my question to you is, "What is the source of your GREATNESS?"
Greatness is in the air ©
Tiffany Torrence-Davis

Monday, February 22, 2010